GROUP SPIRITUAL DIRECTION
Online Group Spiritual Direction for Men
A place for the answer you usually leave out
You tell your friends the divorce is settled, the new job is fine, and the kids are doing well. None of it is a lie. None of it says much about you. Online group spiritual direction gives you a steady circle of men where the longer answer belongs. We make room for conversation, silence, and questions about faith, grief, purpose, or the life that no longer fits. You don’t need the same beliefs to sit together. You need a willingness to listen and let yourself be heard, without turning every difficult moment into something you’re supposed to fix.
When your friends know the facts but not the whole story
Your friends know where you work and what happened with the house. They know you’ll show up when someone needs help moving. What they may not know is that you’ve begun dreading the drive home, or that the death of your father has brought back questions you thought you settled years ago. You see them regularly and still carry the most important part alone.
Group spiritual direction gives a small circle of men a steady place to say what’s happening now. Nobody is there to rank whose life is hardest or tell you how to fix yours. The work is to listen with enough care that a man can hear himself and be heard by others.
What brings you to a group like this
You might be clearing out your mother's house and discovering that grief has changed what you believe. You might have left a marriage and still be organizing your life around what your former partner expects. Or your children need less of you, and the freedom you thought you wanted feels strangely empty. Those are places to begin, not qualifications you need to meet.
Your question doesn’t need to sound religious. Bring the part of this transition that keeps returning after the practical tasks are done. We pay attention to what it means to you, including faith, doubt, anger, gratitude, or a sense of purpose you’re struggling to name.
What happens when the group meets
We gather online with Eric Miller as a guide. There’s time to settle, speak, listen, and reflect. One man may talk about a change in his family. Another may bring a question about faith or a stretch of life that feels strangely empty. The others don’t rush to give advice. A careful question, a moment of silence, or something another man recognizes in his own life can open more than a ready-made answer.
You can decide how much to share while you’re learning whether the group is a place you trust.
A small group of 6–8 men
Each group brings together 6–8 participating men. You return to a circle small enough to recognize one another’s stories, while hearing from men whose lives and questions differ from yours. You don’t need the same beliefs or the same kind of transition to belong.
The group meets online once a month for 90 minutes. We make room for sharing, attentive listening, and silence. One or more men may bring a question for deeper reflection in a given session; participation doesn’t mean everyone receives equal individual time at every meeting. We’ll explain that rhythm before you join so you know what to expect.
Your first group meeting
You don’t need to arrive with your whole history prepared. We’ll explain the format and the confidentiality agreement before you attend. Find a private place, join the video call, and bring something from your actual week rather than the account you think you ought to give.
There’s time to settle before anyone begins sharing. You decide how much to say. Listening is participation too; you don’t need to offer another man an answer to contribute. If silence feels unfamiliar, you’re welcome to say so. Learning the rhythm is part of joining the group.
What you practice over time
The point isn’t to collect insights and leave your life untouched. It’s to notice what happens in you before habit takes over: the irritation after a family call, the relief when a plan falls through, the sentence you keep avoiding. Other men’s stories may help you recognize something you haven’t found words for in your own.
Between meetings, return to what held your attention. Notice when the same question appears at work, at home, or in prayer. Bring that experience next time. We don’t promise relief, certainty, or a particular spiritual outcome. We offer a steady practice of listening and discernment with others.
Is this your kind of group?
You may be active in a church, unsure what you believe, or nowhere near religious language. You do need to be willing to listen to men who may use different words from yours. Group direction makes room for reflection and discernment. If you want more focus on decisions and steps you can take between meetings, group spiritual coaching may fit better.
Group direction, individual direction, and coaching
The individual direction session gives you a full private hour with Eric. The group adds something else: men who hear one another over time, whose stories may help you notice your own. Neither format is automatically deeper. If you need privacy for a recent loss or a question you’re not ready to share, individual direction may be the more useful start.
A support group often gathers around a shared problem. Group spiritual direction may include men facing different changes, connected by the practice of listening and discernment. Group spiritual coaching puts more attention on choices and steps between meetings. We can talk about the difference before you commit to a group.
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Your group facilitator and his qualifications
Eric Miller facilitates the group. He holds a training certificate from Kairos University, has undertaken spiritual formation through the Transforming Center, and is a certified spiritual coach through Life Purpose Institute, which offers ICF-accredited coach training.
You’re bringing the part of your life that doesn’t usually make it into conversation, and it matters who’s listening. Eric’s role is to notice where you slow down, where you change the subject, or where another man starts offering answers before you’ve finished speaking. He helps the group stay with what you’ve actually said. Ask about his training and approach on your introductory call; you should know who you’re trusting with this.
How group spiritual direction differs from group therapy
You might be seeing a therapist and still want somewhere to speak about what this season means to you. That doesn’t mean therapy has failed. Group therapy is psychotherapy led by a qualified mental health professional, and it offers treatment for emotional difficulties, relationship patterns, or mental health concerns.
Group spiritual direction begins with the life you’re living and what you notice when someone stays long enough to listen. What has this loss changed in you? What do you believe now? What keeps returning when the practical jobs are done? We make room for those questions, for silence, and for discerning how you want to live. We don’t diagnose mental health conditions or provide psychotherapy.
You might bring a loved one's death to both settings. In therapy, you might work on how grief is affecting your sleep, relationships, or daily life. In direction, you might find yourself saying that you’ve been praying for months and no longer know who you’re talking to. Those aren’t sealed compartments; the conversations may overlap. Direction doesn’t replace treatment you need or care that’s already helping you.
Does group spiritual direction involve prayer or religious teaching
Maybe prayer is the one thing that’s held steady. Maybe you’ve stopped praying and haven’t told anyone, because you don’t want the conversation that would follow. Either belongs here. You might speak about God; another man might speak about his children, nature, or a connection he hasn’t named. You don’t need to use his words to sit beside him.
We make room for silence and reflection. Prayer is optional; you aren’t asked to lead it, join in, or say something you don’t believe. This isn’t a sermon or a lesson with an answer you’re supposed to reach. If you bring a question about faith, we stay with what it’s been like to live with that question rather than trying to settle it for you.
You don’t have to leave your faith at the door, and you don’t have to find one before coming in. The group isn’t a Bible study or instruction in a particular religion. We’re here to listen to your actual life, including belief, doubt, and the parts you’re still working out.
Privacy and participation
Everyone agrees to listen respectfully, avoid giving unwanted advice, and keep personal stories within the group. No facilitator can guarantee what another person will do outside a call. You can decide how much to share, particularly while you’re learning whether this is a room you trust.
You don’t need experience with meditation or a settled belief about God. You do need enough space and privacy to participate on video and a willingness to hear men who may use different spiritual language from yours.
Fee and first session
Groups include 6–8 participating men and meet once monthly online for 90 minutes. Your first group spiritual direction session is free, subject to an available place. After that, membership is $75 per month. Eric will explain the current schedule and what the fee covers before you join.
Start with a free 30-minute Google Meet conversation. Tell us what’s changing and what you would want from a group. We can decide whether this is a good room for you before you attend.
How We Work
A GENTLE PATHWAY FOR FINDING THE SPIRITUAL SUPPORT THAT MEETS YOU WHERE YOU ARE
Step 1
START WITH A CONVERSATION
Book a free 30-minute Google Meet call with Eric Miller. Tell us what’s changed and what you’d want from a group. Ask the questions you need answered about the pace, privacy, and cost. You don’t need a long application or a polished explanation to start.
Step 2
CHECK OUT THE GROUP
We’ll discuss the current meeting time and whether a group of 6–8 men fits what you need. Your first group spiritual direction session is free if a place is available. You decide afterward whether to continue; attending doesn’t commit you to membership.
Step 3
BEGIN A RHYTHM
If you join, the ongoing fee is $75 per month for a monthly 90-minute online meeting. Return to the same circle and bring what you’ve noticed since the last conversation. Eric will explain attendance expectations and the membership terms before you enroll.
Begin Your Discernment
If you sense that group spiritual direction may be the right next step, you don’t need to be certain. Discernment often begins with curiosity rather than clarity. You’re invited to learn more about upcoming groups through New Mindset Pathways and explore whether this shared listening space fits your current season. A simple conversation can help you notice what feels aligned and whether this form of accompaniment is right for you.
Schedule a free 30-minute chemistry call to explore whether group spiritual direction feels right for you. Together, we’ll create a space where questions are welcomed, doubts are honored, and the presence of God is gently revealed in the details of your life.
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